Too Morbid?

UnholyDefenestrator78 · 2023-04-15T00:16:33+00:00

So, have you ever given thought to this topic? At your funeral/whatever-ceremony, when that time comes, hopefully many years down the road Who do you want...

Walterjn

UnholyDefenestrator78 option b. I'm dead and don't care... although, I would laugh if someone were to take the bouquet off my casket and toss it into the crowd to see who's next

UnholyDefenestrator78

Walterjn someone were to take the bouquet off my casket and toss it into the crowd to see who's next

I genuinely LOL'd at the mental image of this.

Ack8236 Seems to be more and more common to have no service, which would suit me fine. Cremation, scattered wherever, cheapest option possible.

As with what others have said, including the most recent poster. I (granted I don't spend all my free time researching trends in death rituals) had no idea society was moving away from the wasteful full burial towards majority cremations.
Glad to hear it for various reasons of economics, environment, superstition, etc.

Taki27 I want to be cremated and dumped somewhere. Preferably a golf course, soccer field (I don’t think an ice rink would work, lol)

I know they can turn cremated ashes into diamonds now. I wonder if they could turn you into a golf ball or two ?
Or maybe you could do one of those ash-tree things and be planted on a golf course ?

more to come...

Ack8236

Seems to be more and more common to have no service, which would suit me fine. Cremation, scattered wherever, cheapest option possible.

Sneakylong

Ack8236 Seems to be more and more common to have no service, which would suit me fine. Cremation, scattered wherever, cheapest option possible.

Reminds me of this. 😂

Taki27

My wife is very religious. I’m not. I want to be cremated and dumped somewhere. Preferably a golf course, soccer field (I don’t think an ice rink would work, lol). I don’t want to be in an urn on a mantle.

rsvman2

I would want people to say that I was funny, smart, and kind. Maybe that I was a decent dad/husband and a good doctor. And all that would be true most of the time.

I would want some baroque music played. Maybe Sheep May Safely Graze or Since by Man Came Death from the Messiah. If they eat, they should eat food that tastes amazing but is bad for them. Maybe sliders, shrimp poppers, french fries, soda.

professor

rsvman2
Along with good beer...
Celebrate life!

professor

UnholyDefenestrator78

I'm quite close with my daughter. She's soon 38, the mother of two. She shared a beautiful article, written by a woman wondering aloud as to why we wait eulogies for after a loved one's death. In her case, she was discussing her father. My daughter subsequently sent me a 'draft" of her eulogy. I'd highly recommend the practice of such...
Think about it, wouldn't you always want those you love to know why... the details... from their perspective?

johnnydoom

Who do you want to give your eulogy? My son and/or daughter.
What do you hope they would say about you? That it's not about me, and to help point them to the Path established by God to the eternal life through His Word.
Would the former be true if they did say it? No. Much of the way I've lived my life was about me, but they haven't seen the worst of it.
What do you absolutely hope they would NOT say about you? Or embarassing/funny story to not tell? Don't care.
What music would you want played? Voice only hymns collectively sung by those who wish to join. Our God, He is Alive. It is Well with My Soul. Lamb of God.
What kind of repast food(s) would you want served? A potluck of home cooked foods for the family.

Sneakylong

My wife and I are going to be cremated and our ashes spread somewhere. My family has some plots up on the Cape if we wanted to go there. Cheapest way possible. We're not religious so no funeral etc..

Contrast that with two of my golf buddies who just spent ~ $36,000 each for them and their wives to be placed in a mausoleum. I jokingly told them they needed to have their head examined.

They're going to be close to the mausoleum that Yankees owner George Steinbrenner is here in Pasco County Florida. They're both Rays fans. lol

One of them told me he didn't want to be cremated after hearing from someone familiar with cremation and what happens to the body etc.. I said what do you care, you won't feel a thing, you're dead. lol

UnholyDefenestrator78

surprised to see so many pro-cremation posts.

my own thoughts later.

rsvman2

Par4QC Unnecessary.

Why do you model the behavior you find abhorrent in others? He is actually minding his own business and there was nothing wrong with this thread until you showed up and posted that.

sdandrea1

rsvman2 He is actually minding his own business

S/He's misbehaving elsewhere, doc. Same shit as before. 🙄

professor

A shame - a good thread.

UnholyDefenestrator78

Ahhhh, wonder what I missed. I'm sure it was vile, hateful, offensive, and bullying.

north-bc

Maybe a little late to the party but here are my observations as a cemetery caretaker. We are trending towards 90-95% cremation funerals. We have several options for burials here - full plots, cremation plots, mausoleum and columbarium. From what I’ve seen over my time here is that the full casket burials are mostly the older, catholic generation. The people that adhered to the traditional no cremation part of the church teachings. The boomer? generation has moved to cremation and are still buying a full plot, but using it as a family plot (5 sets of cremated remains in the plot). My wife and I are going to be cremated and I’m looking at the columbarium for our remains.

Par4QC

https://www.joincake.com/blog/scattering-ashes-laws-explained/

Ack8236

Talk about a softball, that's like coach pitch.

Martee

Just completed updating "My Last Wishes",

Cremated (probably a bit morbid but have urn and paperwork prepared)
Interned in Arlington National with full honors
Requested the Family get to gether for a 5 star meal
One toast, with the finest scotch they have (please no mixing)
Finally all to celebrate life, have a lot of good laughs and enjoys life and yourselves

LBlack14

Last wishes....cremated, no funeral. Party/celebration of life, 1st song.....