I understood what Rex was saying.
And you're right, by explaining it more in detail , expressing it better than I was able to.
In this guy's own mind He did everything for his kids , but he did not in the way of preparing them for the future.
He did expressed his intention of let go of his kids after they turned 18 to me at least once or twice. I thought he was joking because a father whom spoiled his kids could not let them loose in the street at such young age.
Not in his position.
My wife had different opinion. Thought the cost of raising a child before they turned 18 was dwarfed comparing to the cost of between 18- 22 and beyond. In her mind he was not doing everything he could as a parent, by taking the easy way out.
I see some of my other friends whom have younger kids are treading in the same mistake by giving their kids "everything" in the wrong way. Can't talk them out of it, tried and they won't listen.
Parents always want to give their children what themselves did not have when they were young. Like to re-live their own childhood in their children's.
Anyway, at least I tried to help those around me, however, some do not need nor want advice. Until years later they realized there was no other motivation beside friendship.