sdandrea1
Both probably. Have you tried one of those tennis/golf elbow straps? They worked for me. I was at the point where it hurt to grip lightly. I did switch to graphite because I never wanted to rest my elbow (i.e. stop playing). Now I can play steel again so it was just temporary.
As for graphite vs steel shafts- spend the money on heavier recoil or steelfibers and you won't miss steel at all. It's worth it- just liked spending more on a Weber bbq or a Dyson vacuum, higher initial cost but then you're done and you'll never look back