The Best Friends Of Your Life

Toulon

Over the weekend, I rewatched the classic film, "Stand By Me". I was as struck by it this weekend as much as I was all those years ago.

The closing line of the movie rings loudly true for me. Profoundly affected me just seeing the line, again, because it's so much my experience. Does it ring true for you?

Sarnella

Toulon
yes

Toulon

Sarnella

Man, Sarnella. That line literally brought tears to my eyes, then, and over the weekend. The amount of memories that flooded my mind in just seeing it again...wow. Such special untouchable times. I still have most of them in my life today in some form or fashion. Will never be what it once was, but the love for them is as strong as it was then, if not stronger, becasue now I realize how uniquely special that time and they were.

Seeing your succinct answer made me a little misty.

LBlack14

Most of my best friends are from grade and high school. We've stayed loyal like that. I have 2 best friends I met in college. My sister's best friend in grade and high school is now my sister in law, who I love dearly. We're each others therapists and help each other deal with my wife, lol!

azgreg

A good friend will bail you out of jail at 2:00 in the morning. A great friend will be in there with you.

Walterjn

azgreg kinda like friends will help you move. True friends will help you move bodies.

Toulon

It's funny now that I'm really thinking about it. The friends I'm closest with are the ones who were in closest proximity and longest tenured.

We had/have a group we call the Warner Street Gang. I didn't live on Warner, but lived on the house that you'd drive into if you kept driving up the road without turning.

There is another later addition to my inner circle who lived out of town but he was part of the group that would attend North Stars games together, so we added him to the mix.

Dufferman

Sadly, I don't have any good friends from when I was growing up. We all moved away and don't talk outside of occasional facebook comments. Even in my daily job I don't have real close friends. I have guys I work closely with, but we don't really get together very often at all. I think our own personal lives probably play a role in that.

Par4QC

Dufferman Sadly, I don't have any good friends from when I was growing up. We all moved away and don't talk outside of occasional facebook comments. Even in my daily job I don't have real close friends

Same here. We all scattered in the wind around age 20, and never really looked back. If, and when, we ever do see each other in our home town, we are but mere acquaintances now.
Co-workers were always just that, maybe a touch more if on bowling/golf leagues, til season's end.

johnnydoom

Grew up in a military family that moved every few years and didn’t keep up with friends from move to move. The two best friends from my younger life have both passed on from cancer at 46 and 56 years old. Have made several great friends here since I’ve been in this area for 29 years.

fatshot

johnnydoom
The two best friends from my younger life have both passed on from cancer at 46 and 56 years old.

Same here. One guy was a high school buddy, college roommate, etc. Best friend I ever had. The other was a guy
I coached with, played a ton of golf with, etc. Both died well before their time. I still have plenty of friends and golfing buddies, but none as good as those two....

sdandrea1

johnnydoom Grew up in a military family that moved every few years and didn’t keep up with friends from move to move.

Same here.

Sneakylong

Yup rings true for me. Grew up in a small town on Cape Cod (Harwich). I moved away at 24 and haven’t been that good at keeping up with everyone down thru the years.

Just lost a very good good friend from back then. Played sports together etc.. Died suddenly from a brain aneurism. He was 66. Hadn’t talked to him in 20 years, but have tons of memories.

So yeah, the friends and memories you have when you’re young can be some of the best of your life.

Certainly in my case anyway.

KCee

I still have a few close friends from my home town. We don't get to see each other much lately, but still talk and text. I lost one of my best friends in a car crash just after college. I probably have more in common with my current close friends, but it's not the same bond.

braveheart

I did not remain in contact that well with friends from my pre-high school youth. I have a best friend that lives in Florida. I visit him yearly and he is the kind of guy regardless of distance or circumstances would come to your aid at 2 am if needed.
I share a good relationship with a few high school football teammates. States apart but we text regularly, especially on Turkey day and the Super Bowl. Locally, I have a couple close friends I met playing golf. We golf as often as we can together and are there for each other in times of physical or mental need. I also have some friends from FGI and Golfbuzz that are standup guys.
I have no social imprint ( no Facebook or instagram ) by choice and they all don’t either. So simple texts go a long way as I am not a talk on the phone kind of guy.
What I have learned though, is that some friends and that may only be a few can be better than your own family at being there for you. That is not sad, just a reality for some of us.

meagain

Went to 7 different High Schools, so not too many memories there. As soon as you are getting to be good friends with someone we were moving on. Basically down to my good friends here on Golf Buzz:
Weirfan, candukid, azgreg, professor, sneakylong, Ack8236, wishbone, etc. Strangely they all seem to be good friends with each other also. Hope I didn't leave anyone out. Don't want to hurt their feelings.

Par4QC

meagain Went to 7 different High Schools, so not too many memories there. As soon as you are getting to be good friends with someone we were moving on.

What kinda shit was 'the family' into?

😲

candukid

meagain
I see what you did there.... 😆

Toulon

Par4QC

Yeah, the Ozark family only moved once.

wishbone

accufitgolf

Awwww....We are just a big group of BFF's

mikeintopeka

Morbid exercise. I've mentioned our Sunday morning discussion group on several occasions and I love it for the topics that lead to wonderful conversations mixed with emotions, ethics, and the expertise usually shared from someone at the table. But, this topic one Sunday was uncomfortable and there are no experts.

We spent quiet time in examining our personal pasts and preparing a written outline for what we would like to have our obituaries look like and say. Then we were asked to list at least 6 close friends you hope your spouse approaches to be your pallbearers at your funeral.

Sobering.

Par4QC

mikeintopeka I've already told her, I put new wheels on the hand truck, and it's in the garage, waiting for the services(if any) to end.
She wouldn't go for the garbage bag/river thing. Said she couldn't drag me that far.